Socrates once said, “Beware the bareness of a busy life.”
This post is so good. I too deep dive into current projects and neglect self-care. I'm getting better at preventing or treating it. I think this series of posts is more of a "How I'm Growing" set of posts. Read, don't read, skip ahead to linked posts to other, better writers, or determine this isn't benefiting you and go get some rest of your own. Find your own boundaries.
I have such a difficult time quitting things. Lists of books, shows, etc. If I start to watch a show, I will almost always have the urge to watch the entire show. If I watch a show that has full seasons or is part of a series, I will have the rest of it on my MUST WATCH list, even if I get bored a few seasons in or it's too much drama. There is a sort of sadness when a show has a finale, but there is also a sigh of relief that it is off my list. It is weird. I am cognizant of it, but I just haven't changed it completely. Still, I'm finding the empowerment to quit things that just aren't contributing to who I want to be, giving me rest and life, or adding much to my day. This is a great post encouraging that.
Because, hello! I just can't do it all. People sometimes tell me I am doing it all. Not true. Either I am doing what you can see, or what I allow you to see, well. Or there are some tasks and activities going undone, people unseen, sleep unslept. For a while, I've been living the "do what you can and don't take on the responsibility or guilt for what you can't." That's been a breath of fresh air. I've also been living the "work smarter, not harder," and I am totally cheerleading this mentality! Not only can't I do it all, but I shouldn't, and I should pick and choose what gets my time and attention because otherwise my people and my God get sluggish, frustrated, don't care Andrea.
Take short cuts! Delegate! Is there someone better-suited for a task? Is the amount of money I'd save doing X really worth the amount of time, energy, and effort I'd expend doing X...and sometimes REDOING X because I've also realized I'm not skilled at everything, though I want to do it all? I cannot cook every night, but I can plan meals ahead so some leftovers can be eaten or remade into another dish. I can put stuff in the oven and slowcooker because those beautiful appliances mean I can Walk. Away. and come back to dinner. My kitchen doesn't hate me; I'm just making it work for me a little better. I can find coupons or deals from the weekly papers and make the grocery list, but then hand it off to my husband, who likes to stroll the aisles while listening to his podcasts, and I can scrub toilets or write my paper. I can be lazy about the right things, and I love this post from The Lazy Genius on (not) doing it all.
So, nope, I'm not doing it all. I'm prioritizing, saying no, and doing good enough. And maybe that's actually how we give our very best.