I saw a couple of posts that were encouraging and helpful, and I thought you might find them to be too. There were also some humbling points.
From a mom to singles (or those without children), a bit on how to love.
From a single/non-parent to moms, how to love us.
I'm interested in whether you might have other suggestions or ways you would feel so loved. Feel free to share in the comments.
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I think both those posts were interesting. On the first one, I especially liked that she pointed out that our days start early -- for me, a great time to get together is over breakfast. Only that really only works with other SAHMs ...
I also laughed a little at the second post where she said, "I'm not your babysitter". Uh, I didn't ask you to be. Maybe she has a lot of friends who expect her to watch their kids all the time? Because this isn't something I see a whole lot. But then again I'm pretty new to the world of mothering. She's not talking to me personally, obviously, but dude, not all moms are out to pawn their kids off on their friends. I hate to say this because it makes me sound like such a know it all, but it can be HARD for someone who's not a mom to REALLY get and understand how different your life is when you have kids. You are still the same person, but your life is NOT the same life. I think the author of the second post inadvertently lets that show a bit -- that, through no fault of her own, in some ways she doesn't really understand. Her comment about being gun-shy to hang out is one example. "I'll be understanding about your new lifestyle, but only to a point." (That being said, it's equally important for moms to remember that their kids don't give them license to put their friendships on the back burner, etc.)
Interesting stuff. Thanks for sharing.
My baby is up now. :-)
Good points. Yes, it is usually good to get together with friends in the earlier morning. I've tried that a couple of times. I am usually less hesitant to suggest something like that but like to ask when they wake up and do naps and if I can just come to them at another time. I think that's another helpful bit. If I offer to just come over and they don't have to have everyone dressed and ready and out of the door and worry about the hassle of handling the kids in a restaurant or something while talking to me, I think it lessens my mom-friend's stress, which really helps us have a nicer time together and be able to catch up. I probably offer that more for my college friends when I go back to visit. The only time many friends here would be able to see me in the morning would be weekends and I (probably wrongly) assume that will be family time.
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